Healing after an Affair or Betrayal
Make sense of what happened and begin rebuilding — together
Based in Marina del Rey, Online across California
It feels like you’ve lost the relationship you thought you had — and you don’t know if you’ll ever feel safe with your partner again
Right now, you’re caught between hurt and the hope that things could get better.
Betrayal makes even the ground beneath you feel unreliable. One moment you’re furious, the next you’re numb, and underneath it all is the question: “Can we ever find our way back together again?” You’re both holding so much raw emotion— pain, guilt, fear, and the fragility of being less sure than ever of what the future holds.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not broken — you’re human, standing in the aftermath of something that shook your foundation.
Healing begins as we start to make sense of what happened, together.
Maybe you’ve been…
Triggered every time your partner picks up their phone or works late, haunted by the fear that the affair could start up again.
Finding that any conversation spirals back to the betrayal— even if it started with groceries, chores, or parenting.
Replaying the details of the affair over and over, desperate to make sense of what happened.
Struggling with intimacy— either avoiding touch altogether or trying to force closeness to prove the relationship can still work.
Avoiding friends or family because you don’t want to face judgment or questions about what happened.
Struggling to decide what to share with your kids and how to keep parenting together when you feel so at odds.
Unsure if you want to stay or leave, but determined not to ignore the pain any longer.
We’ll hold space for the complexities of both of your feelings—because this is about more than being the villain or the victim.
HOW I CAN HELP
The emotional aftermath of betrayal can be overwhelming, all-consuming, and sometimes unbearable. My job is to help you slow down enough to make sense of what’s happening between you, so neither of you feels alone in the chaos. Using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we’ll look beneath the fighting and silence at the raw pain and fear driving it, and start creating the safety that’s required to even think about rebuilding.
I don’t see my role as deciding whether you stay together or separate. Instead, I help you both speak the truths you’ve been holding back, hear each other from new perspectives, and begin to see a path forward—whatever that looks like for you. This is tender, yet difficult work, but I’ve seen couples emerge from it feeling stronger than they ever thought possible.
You can learn from the past and create a more honest, hopeful future.
HEALING DOESN’T MEAN FORGETTING.
What we’ll work on
Couples therapy for affairs & betrayal can help you…
Rebuild a sense of safety so you don’t feel the need to go through your partner’s phone or second-guess where they are.
Learn how to talk about the affair without every conversation turning into a screaming match or shutdown.
Take accountability in ways that feel real— through consistent actions, not just words.
Grieve the relationship you used to have, while creating space for a new, more honest one to emerge.
Begin to find intimacy again, in a way that feels safe rather than forced or triggering.
Decide from a place of clarity— rather than fear— whether you want to stay together, and if so, how to build trust again.
Betrayal doesn’t have to be the end of your story.
Questions?
FAQs
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Yes — it’s possible. Many couples who are willing to do the work not only survive but grow stronger after processing and healing from betrayal. Healing doesn’t mean forgetting what happened — it means facing it honestly, repairing trust, and building a new foundation together. I’ll guide you through that process, step by step.
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That’s okay. Uncertainty is part of the healing — many people feel uncertain after betrayal. Therapy is a place to slow down, make sense of what happened, and decide what’s right for you without rushing. My role is to support both of you in finding clarity, whether that means rebuilding or parting with respect.
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There’s no set timeline — it depends on the depth of the betrayal and how willing each of you is to engage in the process. Some couples feel relief after a few months, while others need longer to rebuild safety. I’ll walk with you through each stage so you don’t feel alone in it.
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Yes, though it takes time, consistency, and both partners’ willingness to face the pain rather than rush past it. In therapy, we work to understand how the betrayal happened, what needs to be repaired, and how trust can be rebuilt through small, reliable actions over time.
Rebuilding trust isn’t about erasing the past — it’s about creating new experiences of honesty, safety, and emotional connection that slowly outweigh the old hurt. -
No — healing after betrayal doesn’t mean going back, it means creating something new. Couples often come in unsure if they want to stay together, and therapy helps them find clarity either way. My job isn’t to push you toward a certain outcome, but to make sure you both feel heard, respected, and empowered in whatever decision you make.
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It’s common for one partner to feel hesitant or even hopeless at the start. That doesn’t mean therapy won’t work — it just means we need to slow down and create safety for both of you. My role is to meet you where you are and guide you back to the possibility of connection.