Couples Therapy

In-Person in Santa Monica • Online across California

STOP FIGHTING EACH OTHER & START FIGHTING FOR THE RELATIONSHIP

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Neither of you really wants to give up,
but something has to change
 — because you can’t keep living like this.

Close-up of two people holding hands in a moment of emotional connection, symbolizing empathy and support — therapy for couples, families, and relationships.

AND WHEN YOU THINK OF THE SPARK YOU USED TO HAVE, IT JUST REMINDS YOU HOW FAR APART YOU FEEL NOW.

Every attempt to talk seems to push you further apart. The silence between you is starting to ache. One of you tries to get closer, the other pulls away or blows up, and before you know it, you’re caught in the cycle that widens the gap between you — again. Walking on eggshells only keeps the peace for so long, and though you don’t want to stay stuck here, you don’t know how to do things differently on your own.

Old window with dirty glass and peeling white paint, showing pink camellia flowers outside.

Maybe you’ve been…

Fighting about the same things on repeat—chores, money, sex, parenting—without ever resolving anything.

Feeling more like roommates than partners, with little or no intimacy and affection built into your routines.

Realizing your individual needs or values don’t align—whether about sex, parenting, or the future you imagine together.

Feeling the weight of a major life change, like a new baby, big move, or kids leaving home, and unsure how to navigate it as a team.

Withdrawing into work, caring for the kids, or screens because being together feels tense or lonely.

To therapy before, only to leave feeling like nothing really changed.

We won’t just talk about change— we’ll practice it together.

HOW I CAN HELP

Here, we’re not going to stay stuck in rehashing the same fights you’ve already had a thousand times at home. Instead, I’ll help you slow down and notice what you’re really feeling when you’re having those arguments—which might be fear, loneliness, longing, or something else. When you can start to see the emotional cycle more clearly, you can stop blaming each other and start facing it together. 

I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) as the foundation of our work, which lets us practice talking about the deeper needs that keep getting missed (without spiraling into disagreement). I’ll always be honest with you if I see you getting defensive, being avoidant, or blaming one another. This directness allows us to cut through what’s happening on the surface and find more effective ways of reaching each other. My role is to help you both feel heard, understood — while also challenging you to build a connection that feels stronger, safer, and more alive than the one you walked in with.

REAL INTIMACY isn’t built in the easy moments — it’s built in the hard ones.

Black-and-white image of a couple embracing by the water — symbolizing reconnection, forgiveness, and emotional repair.

This is your chance to learn how to grow closer than ever, instead of further apart.

  • What Couples Say After Doing the Work

    All reflections are shared with permission and presented anonymously to protect client privacy.

  • "For the first time, I don’t feel like the only one fighting for this."

    — Couples Therapy Client (Anonymous)

  • “It’s not a battle anymore. We’ve learned how to lay down our defenses.”

    — Couples Therapy Client (Anonymous)

  • "Now when we argue, it actually brings us closer."

    — Couples Therapy Client (Anonymous)

  • "We are no longer on a vendetta to accuse each other. We understand our cycle now, and we finally have tools to step out of it."

    Couples Therapy Client (Anonymous)

What we’ll work on

Couples therapy can help you…

  • Finally have the difficult conversations about money, parenting, or sex without it spiraling into silence or days of tension.

  • Move from walking on eggshells to feeling safe enough to be open and honest with each other.

  • Understand what’s really driving the fights, so you can meet each other with compassion instead of blame.

  • Reignite the spark by creating small daily moments of affection and connection that don’t feel forced.

  • Learn how to repair after arguments so you don’t spend nights sleeping back-to-back in anger.

  • Stop keeping score and start feeling like you’re on the same team again.

It’s time to start finding your way back to each other

Because love isn’t something you find once — it’s something you keep choosing, moment by moment.

This is where things begin to change

Questions?

FAQs

  • If you keep having the same fight, feel more like roommates than partners, or avoid each other to keep the peace, couples therapy can help. You don’t have to wait until things fall apart—therapy is a space to repair before it’s too late. Together, we’ll untangle the patterns keeping you stuck and rebuild the closeness and trust between you.

  • Yes, I do work with individuals on a case-by-case basis. Sometimes it makes sense to focus on your own patterns, healing, or past experiences before or alongside couples work. Sometimes it helps to start with your own story first. If you’re wondering whether individual therapy is right for you, schedule a free consultation and we can talk through what would be the best fit.

  • Many of my clients are on their second or third try at therapy. What makes this different is that we don’t just talk about communication—we dig into the emotions and old patterns underneath your conflicts. With a clear process and real-time practice in the room, you’ll start to feel change where it  counts — between you

  • Not necessarily. Some couples come in unsure if they want to stay together, and therapy helps them find clarity — whatever that looks like. My job isn’t to push you toward a certain outcome, but to make sure you both feel heard, respected, and empowered in whatever decision you make.

  • It’s common for one partner to feel hesitant or even hopeless at the start. That doesn’t mean therapy won’t work— it just means we need to slow down and create safety for both of you. My role is to meet you where you are and guide you back to the possibility of connection. You don’t have to arrive ready — just willing.