Why Repair Fails (Even When Both Partners Are Trying)
Repair doesn’t fail because couples don’t try hard enough. It fails when safety is missing. Here’s what most people misunderstand—and what actually helps repair land.
How Desire Becomes Conditional
Desire doesn’t disappear all at once. It narrows—becoming careful, watchful, and conditional. This piece explores what actually happens when sex stops feeling free, and how safety—not effort—is what brings desire back.
Why Libido Isn’t the Whole Story: What actually helps when sex starts to feel harder
When sex starts to feel harder, it’s easy to blame libido. But desire and arousal work differently—and understanding that difference can change everything.
The Body Revolts
When a partner shuts down in conflict, it’s not rejection — it’s the body trying to protect itself. This post unpacks why shutdown happens, why it gets misread, and how couples repair once safety comes back online.
The Anatomy of Repair
A quiet reflection on how couples rebuild connection after conflict — small, human moments where love remembers itself.