Why Repair Fails (Even When Both Partners Are Trying)
Repair doesn’t fail because couples don’t try hard enough. It fails when safety is missing. Here’s what most people misunderstand—and what actually helps repair land.
Why Fighting Feels Safer Than Repair
Why fighting can feel safer than repair—and how fear of vulnerability, not poor communication, keeps couples stuck in painful cycles.
The Body Revolts
When a partner shuts down in conflict, it’s not rejection — it’s the body trying to protect itself. This post unpacks why shutdown happens, why it gets misread, and how couples repair once safety comes back online.
The Anatomy of Repair
A quiet reflection on how couples rebuild connection after conflict — small, human moments where love remembers itself.
Why We Fight About the Dishes (and What It Really Means)
Couples rarely fight about chores. Beneath the dishes are deeper longings — to be seen, supported, and on the same team. Small shifts in how we speak and listen can turn everyday conflict into connection.